Parenting: Managing and Controlling Behavior of a Child
Oct 15, 2021
Parenting is not an easy task. One of the most challenging aspects of parenting is managing the behavior of a child. We talk about a few parenting tips like spending time with the child, talking to your child about their feelings, etc.
Human behavior is unpredictable. When children reach a growing age, they face specific behavioral changes as they interact with the real world around them. This is because human behavior is dynamic and not static.
Therefore, let's move ahead and talk about managing behaviour of a child as a parent.
Managing Behavior of a Child
Children can reflect on the actions they observe around them, primarily the actions of their parents. This is because they have their parents around them the most, and they carry their parents' genes. Therefore, as a parent, good coping strategies help model the behavior of your child.
Here are a few parenting tips in this regard that would help you mold your child's behavior.
Display Sharing Among Adults
Children may tend to feel that they only need to share or use good manners. So, as a parent, you can portray small yet meaningful instances in front of them.
For example, you can share your food with your spouse and show it playfully to your kid like, "Mommy is sharing her food with Daddy. Good job, Mommy!" This would create a good memory and a lesson in the child's head.
Portray Calming Methods
Show examples of coping mechanisms to calm down. Teach them to calm down whenever they get frustrated or upset. For example, when you get tired of waiting in the traffic, you can say in front of your child, "Daddy is really tired of this traffic now. Would you please help Daddy to calm down by taking 10 deep breaths with me?"
This way, they learn the trick of taking deep breaths to calm down when upset or frustrated.
Teach Your Child to Be Vocal About Their Emotions
Teaching your child to express their feelings can come through even the smallest of gestures. For example, whenever you are tired at the end of the day, you can say, "Mommy is really tired today." Another acute example can be "Mommy is very sad right now."
This teaches your child to say what they feel inside and not make hurtful or critical statements. Whenever they are upset, help them calm down or express their emotions. You can start by saying, "You seem upset, honey. I am right here if you want to talk about it."
Sometimes, even as a parent, you may be wrong about their emotions. Please learn to unlearn that parents always know the best. And let your child correct you if you are wrong about them.
Attention is as Important as Good Behavior for A Child
In most cases, parents tend to leave their children alone when they are on their best behavior. However, when they misbehave, parents would directly punish them. Not many people are aware that you tend to let them increase such misbehavior to get attention from their parents.
That is why it is crucial that you fill your child with a lot of attention even when they are on their best behavior and sometimes, maybe outlook any misbehavior they might be up to. This way, they know that you encourage the good in them as well.
You can start by spending time with the child and making an encouraging remark about their slightest attempt in behaving well. For example, "Good job listening to your Daddy today!" Praising them for their efforts makes them feel loved and cared about.
Parenting is challenging. It brings about a lot of responsibility and pressure at times. But, when you remain calm and unfold the parent in you in steps, you will do well parenting your child. It is certainly not enough to give birth to your child and punishing them when they are bad.
Encouraging them at their best matters equally. And it would be best if you remembered that while you nurture your child's growth and behavior.